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Akili Kumasi, FounderToo Sexy For Church
Posted by rfathers on August 31, 2009
Yesterday, Sunday, I had an occasion to think about what is to sexy for church. Today, Monday, I ran across a women’s blog that was discussing that same subject. Christianity Today’s Kyria.com.
In the blog they were discussing how women should dress in church and some of the personal experiences of the writers in their attempt to dress appropriately. Here’s the comment I made on that blog:
I would like to offer a man’s perspective on your second question, “In what ways does clothing distract you from focusing on God?” I am sure my point of view is not the only male perspective, but nonetheless here it is. Since I got saved about 15 years ago, I have sought to sit as close to the front of the church as possible to help me to focus on God and to not get distracted by women in the church. It is not that I attend church where women are scantily dressed. It is quite the contrary. Most women dress conservatively. However, no manner of dress can stop a man’s mind from wandering (See Stephen Arterburn’s book, Every Man’s Battle). Only the man’s focus on God can do that. My conclusion is this: because of the presentation of women’s bodies in the “world” especially in the media and advertising, men have to really stay focused on God (and their purpose in life) to avoid temptation. Sometimes it is not easy to stay focused on God when a half-naked woman appears in front of you in living color. I’ll tell you that it is enough to face that battle outside of church. I don’t want to face that battle inside of church. So therefore, my suggestion to women (from a man who wants to stay focused on God) is to use the Apostle’s Paul encouragement to “… to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly…” (1 Timothy 2:8-10, NASB)
What do you think on this issue? Can you be distracted from your focus on God in church? Please leave your comment below.
By the way, Christianity Today has a free newsletter and a host of articles in their Marriage Partnership website. Check it out. They have a lot of valuable resources.
For men who need help staying on the straight and narrow path of focusing on God and not be distracted by the presentation of “worldly women” here are a few other resources. I have found the Every Man’s Battle book series to be very helpful and informative. Every Christian man should arm himself with a least one of these weapons.
Help yourself to a free copy of the book that my two sons and I wrote some years ago, Fun Meals for Fathers and Sons: Recipes and Activities for Bonding and Mentoring. 
