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Akili Kumasi, FounderThe Five Languages of Love
Posted by rfathers on May 30, 2009
Every man should know about the Five Languages of Love.
In his book, The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman teaches couples how to speak and how to understand their mate’s love languages.
Those five languages are:
- words of affirmation: telling her how much you appreciate her and what she does, expressing gratitude for well she does something, compliments on her hair or clothes, and especially telling her how you feel about her;
- quality time: focusing your time and energy on her and also on her needs, communication (with eye contact), sharing feelings, thoughts and experiences; listening (not solving problems – but listening);
- receiving gifts: giving gifts as a expression of love and appreciation (within your budget of course), including the gift of self and time;
- acts of services: chores done out of love not obligation, from the simple and necessary chores to the special chores specifically for your mate, know what our mate likes or you could be speaking the wrong language (i.e. washing the car will not be appreciated if your mate wants the dishes done); and
- physical touch: more than just sexual intercourse is important to most people, physical closeness is appreciated in various ways, know what you your mate likes and where and what is important to her, know how she does not like to be touched so that you will not be irritating to her.
Do you know your mate’s love languages, how she speaks them or how she likes to receive them?
Do you know your own way of speaking and how you like to receive?
Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, (Chicago, IL: Northfield Publishing, 1995).
Gary’s book and his website can be great tools for developing your abilities in this area. (See www.FiveLoveLanguages.com)
Or you can get a copy right here:
